I felt the urge to write about this. I believe it was because of the many things that transpired recently with me and my family. After the tough times (not only the recent ones but considering even the past), I gained some precious insights on the essence of the basic unit of society and how things go. Let me share with you, dear reader what these are. It might be that you think the same way or you are still going to learn these valuable lessons.
1. No family is perfect. It may sound a bit cliche but I think everyone believes that’s the truth. It’s the reality of things because not only is the family composed of human beings but each member is different. Your father might be the tough disciplinarian, too stern and meticulous even with the smallest stuff or the complete opposite. Your mother- the loving and ‘got-it-covered’ type or the busy woman with no time for her kids. Your siblings- well, you can insert any adjective here to describe them. With different personalities, preferences and needs, there’s no doubt that misunderstandings and conflicts arise. This surely proves that in every family, any member can hurt another. Hurtful words can be spoken, violence may be seen so tears are shed and hearts are broken. No matter how perfect some may see one family, there’s always a part unknown and unseen that proves no one comes from a perfect family. Accepting how things go, I believe, really helps in making the family bond stronger. Instead of pretending to be all happy and living up to some fantasy, one can focus on helping each other with there weaknesses and improving their strengths. Despite the imperfections, a family can still work through any dilemma if they work together in cooperation and love. And you’ll understand that an imperfect family might be the happiest and best family to belong to.
2. Sometimes, you have to make the first move. Well, if conflict does arise, I learned in time, that even though it’s not your fault, you always have the choice to apologize first. It is very much contrary to human nature to do that. I mean who would want to apologize to someone who doesn’t even see his wrong and would not bother saying sorry? But I came to realize that when you think about God’s love and compassion, it hits you hard that you’re wasting time by waiting for the other person to apologize. Don’t get me wrong; there are moments when you really have to give silence its spotlight but if hatred is eating your heart up and revenge is sticking to your mind like glue, better let go of these feelings and pave the way for reconciliation. It always helps when you seek God’s help.
3. Respect is always a must. There are times when you argue with your parents and you feel like they don’t get where you’re coming from. Or worse, you got hurt by them and they don’t have a clue on what you’re feeling. Your perception of them changes and you think that the way you treat them must too.These are tough times and it feels like showing respect is the last thing you’ll ever do. But before you might regret it, never loose hold of respect for them. No matter what happens, they are still your parents and they deserve the same level of respect as before. It’s a very difficult situation to be in, provided that many things get in the way like your ego. But sorting things out with them in a spirit of lowliness, without any form of disrespect might be the road to healing- they would acknowledge their shortcomings and change. This doesn’t only to apply with parents but to anyone in the family older than you.
4. Unconditional love is the force that keeps the family going despite all circumstances. If respect is necessary, how much more love? Well, unconditional love that is. I pretty much don’t need to explicate on this one. I believe that almost everyone can agree that no matter what happens, love will reign supreme. And it is truly possible if God dwells in our hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Well, there you have it. Just four simple truths that I acquired so far about the family which for me, is one of the greatest blessings from above. And to sum it all up, nothing can change the fact, despite the imperfections and trails, that family will always be family.